Thursday, May 17, 2012

A Cry for Authenticity

I've been a little bit out of the blog world lately. Partially because I'm just that busy that I don't have time to sit down and write a blog, but, if I'm being honest, because I'm a little disheartened by it lately. I'm not targeting anyone specifically, but I'm getting tired of "the angle" and the desperate attempts to display a overly dramatized and fake persona that more and more bloggers seem to be going for.

I've read a lot of "How to get more followers" articles and they all have idea like bullet your points, use a number in your title (104 Reasons Why I Like How I Met Your Mother), and simple things like that. I guess there's nothing wrong with that, but here's the deal. Life doesn't always come in formulaic bullet points and if yours does, then maybe it's time to start living a little more dangerously.

I'm not suggesting we turn our blogs into pity parties or be afraid to go for a laugh here and there, but what do you think would happen if we stopped over dramatizing the mundane things in life and actually wrote/shared things that mattered?

I'm not trying to be the censorship police, but I am trying to challenge you a little bit. Think about it. Maybe this doesn't apply to you, but before you post, consider how hard you're trying to be funny or  to sound smart. Maybe, just maybe, it's time for you to put down your mask and start being real. Drop the "angle," drop the act.

I'll write a blog about it soon, but I recently attended Donald Miller's "Storyline" conference and he turned me on to Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl. We are all familiar with Freud and his idea that the human seeks to find pleasure, and slightly less popular is another psychologist's theory that the human lives to seek power. Frankl suggested that power and pleasure are merely coping mechanisms human beings use when they can't obtain what they're really seeking, and that is meaning.

I, for one, whole heartedly agree with Frankl's theory. Without meaning, what's the point? I see SO many blogs and think, "Who the heck cares?" (Maybe people think that when they read my blog sometimes!) But if it matters to you, hey, keep on blogging. You're not living your life to please other people, but I do want to challenge you to blog about things that matter, to you or others, in a way that makes a difference.

Nicole Jeannette


Laura said...

Ugh. I tried to comment before but it didn't work!!

I get so tired of the blogging "rules" too. I used to feel so behind when I read them, when I first started going all-in on blogging, but then I was like...wait...I don't want to write in bullet points. That's not how I work--I write 800 words and I like it that way. haha. I don't want to cater to "skimmers"...that's not who I'm going for anyway.

good post!

A Crimson Kiss said...

This is such a wonderful post. After all, I think the most engaging blogs are the one with a real person behind them–and you can always tell when someone's phoning it in!

April said...

One time this girl said reading my blog was like reading a diary, and she meant it as a compliment, but at the time I thought it was condescending and belittling. Now that I've had a little distance from it, I agree. I don't have a real "theme" to my blog, I guess. I hardly ever post outfits, I hardly do DIY things, I don't post about food much. It's just a mish mash of my life and what I think is interesting; and if I don't have anything to say, I don't blog!
Love this post.

Nicole Jeannette said...

Thanks ladies! I agree, April! I think blogging just for the sake of saying something leads to meaningless content!

Jodi Carmichael said...

Nicole, I couldn't agree more. I break all the blogging rules, too. If they work for what I'm blogging that day, then fine, if not, then that's fine too. I never write to fit within their guidelines, though. That being said, I wrote a guest post for my pubisher's site and I had to stick to their guidelines and the result was a very tight piece of writing. Mind you I only had to adhere to a word limit and theme.

I really enjoyed your blog. Keep up the good work and break all the rules - it's working for you!