Thursday, November 4, 2010

If I could write a letter to me (at 16)

Dear Me-at-16,

Hi. I know this is rather fortune-cookie-esque, but I have good news from the future--all is well. I'm not going to ruin any surprises for you, but life post grad is really great. You are loved and surrounded by God's blessings left and right. You have the most loving friends and family a girl could ask for.  Life over the next five years won't be easy, sometimes it will be tragic, but it will always be beautiful.

Somethings have changed, some haven't. Jennifer is still your best friend. Mom and Dad are still Mom and Dad. Mandy is in heaven, which is tragic, but she was the best dog in the whole world. Now you have a little dachshund--yes, Jennifer gets her wish. You're still friends with Liberty, but you (barely)  keep in touch with everyone else except through Facebook. Don't ask, you'll see.

All that said, if I could, in addition to the fun stuff, I would like to impart a little bit of wisdom that I feel will save you a lot of trouble. Ready? Here goes:
  • First of all, I know how cool those sparkley, low rider jeans look now, but trust me, burn them.
  • Stay AWAY from tree nuts. You'll develop an allergy if you eat too many and it's a REAL pain.
  • Buy a better straightener and cut your hair. Again, trust me.
  • Eyeliner is your friend. Don't fear it. 
  • You have a job now and you're working on making something of yourself. In general, life is totally wonderful.  It was fun discovering the career path/college major, so I'm going to be vague, but I want to encourage you to read as much as you possibly can, starting now. It will help.  
  • You never do manage to like coffee, don't bother. 
  •  Give up all hopes of having a car for quite a while. It's not as rough as it sounds.
  •  Don't be afraid to be yourself and speak your mind ever again. You have great things to say, just embrace it. You're a people pleaser--trust me, the sooner you drop this the better. Never change who you are or what you want in life so that someone will like you better. 
  • When people say mean things to you, seriously, let it roll. You'll learn who I'm talking about and you wind up WAY better off than both of them. 
  • As far as boys go, after you break up with your first boyfriend, just be friends with him. He's a great guy, but you aren't right for each other.  Don't sweat that one so much. There will be a boy your freshman year of college who tells you he will love you forever and ask you to marry him. He is not what he pretends to be. Punch him in the face. For real. Also, you will be relentlessly hit on at the library in college--just ignore them, don't even be nice. You'll meet and date several a great guys, but don't feel obligated to say yes to a date if you don't see a future.  Furthermore, don't date your friends or boys named Jeff. Not even once. (Don't worry, you meet a WONDERFUL guy in the most unlikely place and are very much in love and very happy. He loves you for who you are. Things look good at this point ;).)
  • Just say no to full bangs
  • College will be a blast. You'll do a good job at this anyway, but try to balance your friends and your studies as best as possible. It's okay to say no to your friends when you have work to do--they'll still love you
  • Someday you will study abroad and will have a layover in Iceland. AVOID the salmon
  • Keep up a dairy! It's so fun to look back and see what you did on any given day! 
  • Finally, no matter HOW curious you get. NEVER dye your hair blonde. Got it? NEVER.
Apart from that, just know that God holds so much joy for you, both now and in the future and never forget that you are always and deeply loved.

I feel that you and I are so very different. I've changed so much since I was you, but I'm happier and stronger than you ever thought you'd be.

I'm interested to see what the future holds for us now, but just know that the next few years are worth every moment. :)

To the future us,


P.S. Unfortunately you're not a famous singer like Britney Spears, but trust me, you want it that way.


Amber Schmidt said...

What a wonderful letter.. You are a gem, you know that?

Love Always,
Amber Rose

Unknown said...

this was really great! I've been doing a few #tweetyour16yearoldself tweets this week, but your post takes the cake! Loved it!

Anonymous said...

So you should keep a "dairy" haha

Sorry friend